Happiness is something that we all want out of life. Whether that happiness be through work, family, or hobbies. Many of us would actually like to have and share that happiness with another person. Someone to count on and be with. However, though we all want it, it does not come easy. The reality of relationships is that they are hard work. They require time, patience, and commitment. They require learning someone else better than you know yourself. We all want the fairy tale of finding our night in shining armor and then going on to live happily ever after, but it doesn’t quite work that way. There are compromises and sacrifices that must be given in order to make a relationship work.
There are a number of successful woman and men that are single because they have not found the right spouse. Like everyone else, they want nothing more than to be married and have a family. Only for them, they have their issues of success to deal with which is more than some people can actually handle. “Why Are 42% of Successful Black Women Single?” speaks about this very issues with successful black woman. So what do you do? Do you resort to online dating like a lot of people have chosen to do? Do you go to weekly speed dating sessions and make a mockery of yourself week after week of coming up empty handed? Or do you take the time to reflect inward and examine yourself, then determine what is it that you want in a mate and then regurgitate those same qualities from within yourself? Bottom line, at the end of the day you have to know what you want, where you want to go both in a relationship as well as in life, and what you are willing to compromise in order to have a lasting relationship. Often time we get hung up on not wanting to be alone that we forget who it is that we are and what it is that we want. Under no circumstances should one allow a relationship to change them, unless it is in a matter of growth. You should not be broken down or subdued because that is not happiness. Happiness should not have a price tag or a quota to be met. It should be pure and genuine and come without limitations.
The problem with many relationships today is that we get to comfortable and we forget to do the things that attracted us to our partner to begin with. We lose sight of the things that we wanted to accomplish as a couple thus resulting in tension and a growth apart from one another. As couples you have to take the time to connect on a consistent basis, you have to respect your partner unconditionally, you have to acknowledge the things that you do appreciate in them rather than only pointing out the negative aspects. It is important to show your appreciation for your partner. Compassion is something that is needed by all human beings and animals alike. You would not want to be neglected or chastised all the time and neither does your partner. When you guys are having an argument or you feel yourself getting angry, try taking 10 seconds to think if what your fighting or getting angry about is really worth the tension that is going to form afterwards. There are words that help fighting couples, and this may be something can be implemented into your relationship.
Success in a relationship occurs when both parties are on the same page and have an understanding of one another. Not all relationships are bad, it’s just that we make bad choices while in them. So accepting the full package and baggage that comes along with you partner may be the first step to having a lasting and successful relationship. All other things must be adhered to and thus a lifetime together will fall into place.
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Hey How to,
Thanks for your comment. I really like writing that post. Many people do not understand the complications of getting and then maintaining a relationship. It is something that many of us struggle with yet do not know what we are doing wrong. I hoped it helped many of you.
The Reality Guru
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Hi Nathan,
I got a tickle out of your comment. Many people do certainly look for the tricks when it comes to relationships, young and old alike. I didn’t have that in mind when I wrote this post, so thank you for reminding me. I hope no one takes it and uses it as a trick to gain a relationship, lol. But thank you for being a fan and I look forward to speaking with again very soon.
The Reality Guru
Hi, Thanks. Having been facing the same problem. Solved now Regards.
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I’ve never heard of this before. I’ll definately need to check this out.
Thank you America. I have tried different things as well as incorporating the thoughts and suggestions of my readers. Glad that you like it.
The Reality Guru
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As you sow so shall you reap
I like your choice of words Flirting Tips
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Thank you so much Bikini, I really appreciate the comment and admiration. I hope all is well with your relationship or your journey to find one.
The Reality Guru
Hey Thong of The Day,
I am happy to know that you found the article at a good time for yourself. I hope all is well and I wish you the best.
The Reality Guru
Once a thief, always a thief
Every stick has two ends
Everything comes to him who waits
Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die
Very good words of wisdom.
The Reality Guru
I love this becuase it so very true.
The Reality Guru
That is a very good point. It reiterates that fact that everyone has a voice and, particularly when in relationships, one needs to listen attentively to the other.
The Reality Guru
So is that to say that once a cheat always a cheat? I think some people can be rehabilitated and chnage upon certain degree’s of maturity. How do you guys feel?
The Reality Guru