Last night my man dropped me off at home and there were a group of woman parlaying outside. As usual he opened the door for me, gave me a kiss and hug goodnight. As I proceeded to walk inside the group of woman started staring me down with looks of disgust as if they had never seen a man that knew how to treat a woman. I brushed it off and continued to walk inside. My man got in the car to drive off and little did I know the crowd of woman began giving him the same dirty looks. The question in my head now “what the hell is the problem”.
In today’s day and age a good man is hard to find. But does that mean we have to look down on every woman who at least thinks she has one or in the rare cases really does? Should we be envious at her ability to recognize the good versus the bullshit? Absolutely not even though we may want to. Find hope in her happiness. Find guidance through their trials and tribulations. Learn to give and sacrifice rather than want.
We as woman need to learn that we must know and love ourselves before we can expect to receive it in any relationship. We must determine the characteristics we wish to have and then decide which ones we can compromise on without compromising our dignity or morals. As woman we have to accept the fact that we don’t always have to right. That sometimes we have to lose the fight and let him feel like a king so that he will continue his act right. It is not secret that sometimes you have lose a fight to win the war. Finding a good man that can be a lover, father, husband, and provider does not come easy. It does not come without hard work and dedication. Don’t give up after one bad argument. Be willing to endure thousands more so that you and your man will know each others strengths and be able to overcome anything.
As a gender let’s watch our happily married friends and study that things that work for them, then critique those same characteristics to your relationship. Encourage and support them so that they may continue to prosper with one another. So to the crowd of woman from last night, stop being a hater because you have no one to cuddle with at night and try taking out your notepad and get to learning. Its time to end the cycle of the HATERade
